Choosing a career path when you’re uncertain

At 22, on my first day at my first real job, I became convinced that I had doomed myself to a mediocre career.

Instead of applying for a prestigious consulting job like my UVa peers, I had become paralyzed by inaction. My career decision felt both intractable and impossibly high-stakes: either my next job would put me on the fast-track to success, impact, and meaning; or I would condemn myself to a self-perpetuating string of mediocre gigs. I was like Esther from The Bell Jar, starving at the foot of the fig tree, and my indecision was rewarded with a single wretched job offer from my friend’s sympathetic father, writing loan servicing valuations for $37K/year.

I hit rock bottom at RP Financial: I didn’t like my job, my city, my friends, my future. After a year of angst, I became desperate enough to completely upend my life, and discovered my own agency in the process. I was unlocked by two great ideas about navigating my career while uncertain. One idea, from Why Greatness Can’t Be Planned, applies to the lucky few that have an abiding curiosity they might pursue, but who aren’t yet sure where it leads. The other idea, from So Good They Can’t Ignore You, showed me what to do when I didn’t have any such curiosity.

I know there’s a lot of content written about this topic, but hopefully my perspective is still worth contributing. I’ve now pivoted my career twice, each time to my great satisfaction, after four sabbaticals in 11 years.

The main idea of Why Greatness Cannot be Planned is that it’s not effective to set goals when you’re venturing forth into unknown intellectual terrain. Instead, you should engage in novelty search.

In practice, this means trusting that pursuing your curiosity for 12-18 months will lead you somewhere innovative. It’s well worth the read; here’s a summary from ChatGPT:

Unfortunately, at 22 I didn’t really feel any particular curiosity, so this strategy wasn’t available to me until much later. My curiosity was blocked by my low agency and only awakened in response to a growing collection of meaningful life experiences.

However, around the age of 30, after several years living in a group house, I had became powerfully curious about engineered serendipity, to the point where I spent a majority of my free time building projects for coliving houses, studying and thinking about them, and engaging with local communities. Eventually, after 5 years of side projects, it started to interfere with my desire to allocate creative energy to my day job. In June 2021, encouraged by Why Greatness Cannot Be Planned, I quit my otherwise fulfilling career as a machine learning engineer to pursue community full-time… whatever that meant, and wherever it led.

It sounds fun to follow your curiosity, but the day-to-day experience is actually rather uncomfortable and frustrating. I hit frequent dead ends and felt like an unwashed degenerate whenever a respectably employed friend asked what I’d been up to. It was crucial to have supportive friends that understood my path.

I often felt that I was wasting my time. It was only when I zoomed out and asked myself whether I felt like my ideas were improving from month to month that I could tell that I was making progress.

I quit with a vague plan to pursue independent research into community. 21 full-time months later, after collecting “stepping stones” and gradually realizing what works and how they fit together, I’m building something that vastly exceeds my initial hopes, have a coherent and tractable strategy and am financially sustainable.

If you want the more detailed story, you can check out my semi-regular project updates. Notice the gaps around November 2021 and August 2022 — those were long periods of doubts where I nearly gave up. The life of complete structurelessness is an emotional rollercoaster. It’s not for everyone and requires a strong support network, ideally including people that have done similar things before. I met with a group of friends every two weeks for months, and it got me through my first and most major doubt phase.

There are a couple of common beliefs that I updated in the course of this process, that I sometimes see holding people back from fully grokking the mindset.

One is the idea that I needed a credible path to impact before I could get started. In reality, ideas unfold over months and years, and it’s totally OK for them to seem dumb or pointless in the beginning. Don’t worry about it and have faith that your curiosity will eventually lead you to interesting places. The patron saint of this mindset is Richard Feynman, whose Nobel originally came out of a fascination with spinning plates. In practice I found that the scope of my ambition organically expanded as I accumulated little wins.

The other is the idea that you need to have a business plan. Keeping in mind that all advice is context-dependent and that I’m not particularly motivated by money, but: I always trusted that if I created real value for people, that down the road I would find a way to monetize. Keeping in mind that all advice is context dependent and fully disclaiming any disasters that ensue from following this advice: don’t fixate on making money too early.

My takeaway from this possibly idiosyncratic experience is that following the gradient of aliveness unlocks vast stores of energy and creativity that you simply can’t sustainably access from a place of self-coercion.

None of that advice was useful to me at 22, because I, like the vast majority of people , had no obvious passions at that age.

In fact, I found advice like the above to be actively unhelpful. It made my angst worse. I felt only jealousy at those that had discovered their passion early in life.

This is why I’m eternally indebted to Cal Newport for So Good They Can’t Ignore You, which persuaded me that passion can come after mastery. Take it away, ChatGPT:

Thanks to this idea, I decided to quit my job in finance and become a programmer, reasoning that the high skill ceiling would advantage somebody with enough desperation fuel to systematically study for many years, like me.

I would quit my job in finance, spend the $10K I had saved up on living expenses for 3-9 months of full-time studying, and read textbooks in mom’s basement until I got a job. I went to Meetups and asked entrepreneurs to give feedback on my strategy and even secured a backup job offer from Edward Jones. I finally pitched my slightly concerned but ultimately supportive family by PowerPoint — basement secured.

Looking back, I’m pleased to report that So Good They Can’t Ignore You completely aligns with my lived experience pursuing mastery. I got my first taste of competence within a few months and felt a glimmer of passion for programming. This kicked off an extremely blessed virtuous cycle of self-improvement, where I came to deeply associate studying with a better life, which stoked my hunger for more learning. My value as an engineer allowed me to pursue a variety of interests that gradually emerged between 2015 and 2020, including education, preparing the job marketplace for automation from AI, and finally AI research directly.

If you’re interested in all the curriculums I worked through, here’s a breakdown. If you wanted to speedrun that path, though, I’d recommend you go to the Bloom Institute of Technology, get a job, get settled at that job for 6-12 months, and then work your way through the Bradfield computer science curriculum. Within a few years you’ll have plenty of useful skills.

One of my consistent beefs with the Internet is that so many of us participate in self-mythmaking. We’re all conspiring to make ourselves seem more impressive. The overall effect is to disempower readers, who conclude that they’re just not made of the same stuff. I promise you: it’s all bullshit and nearly everyone you pedestalize as brilliant is a normal person that has their own share of flaws, anxieties, and unproductive phases. I’ve lived with a lot of outwardly impressive people, and honestly a lot of my self-belief simply comes from seeing them struggle too.

Pursuing an original or impactful career requires a ton of energy and creativity. You can coerce that energy out of yourself for as long as 10 years, but eventually you’ll burn out. The only sustainable path is to follow the gradient of aliveness, if it’s accessible. If it’s not, focus on making yourself unambiguously useful to the world. In both cases you have to have faith that the process will bring you somewhere interesting, even if you can’t see it clearly in advance. And it’s normal to be indecisive for a while. Each of my two career pivots were preceded by a year of working up the courage and conviction I needed to take the leap of faith.